This weekend was...well it was something. I saw more than enough of Candidate #1 and Candidate #3. And I was faced with an issue I didn't have to deal with before. But let's start with Thursday night.
Had my date with Candidate #1 and it went really well. By the end we just wanted to do something chill so we traipsed over to his place, a nice and roomy apartment in my favorite part of San Francisco. Some making out ensued, reaching high points of tension, and followed by a visit to his bed. No, we did not do anything more than kiss. But then he wanted to cuddle. And I'm not a big cuddler. And every time I would try to escape his grasp and move around, he would just move into a new cuddling position. Needless to say I did not get much sleep that night. But some good things came out of it. He told me he liked me when he first met me, and had felt the same way when we bumped into each other a few months back. I can only assume he likes me now. But this morning I started questioning this.
Let's back up to Sunday. We got together again (at his request). Nothing fancy, just dinner and hookah. This hookah, however, was super hookah! It inspired a real unexpected buzz. He got all giggly and amused by everything, and decided to be really sweet during the peak of his buzz. But then that died off. In fact, overall the sweetness has deteriorated. After we had gone on our first date, he mentioned all these things he wanted to do with me like taking me to a winery and taking salsa classes together. (Quick disclaimer: we had gone on our first date together weeks back when my ex and I were broken up for the first time). Anyway, now that it's been our third date and our 5th time hanging out, there has been no talk of salsa or wine or any other activity we should do together. Then this morning, I had to face an unexpected sight. I took a shower at his place and found dark brown girls hair in the bath tub. Clearly, I'm not the only one staying over. Most of you who have already heard this story, told me, "so what?"
And you're right. We never said we were exclusive, and I'm exploring my other options as well. But it's one thing to think that way and another to actually see it. He should have at least hid the evidence! Combined with his slight change in behavior, I'm not sure what's going on. Does he actually like me? Is he just a serial dater? If he didn't like me, why would he keep asking to hang out? Of course, there's nothing I can do or say to provide some clarity. So I'll let the holidays be the testing ground. Will I receive texts from him or will Candidate # 1 be a thing of the past? We'll see.
In other news, Candidate # 3 became an actual candidate. We hung out both Friday and Saturday night and I had a great time! At the risk of sounding schizo, I've realized Candidate # 3 fits my alter ego, the one that likes to party, go to raves, doesn't like certainty and is surprisingly laid back. Or am I limiting myself when I say that? He sent me some texts last night that he wishes we could have spent more time together and is looking forward to hanging out when we return from the holidays. This I like!
There are many unanswered questions looming in the air, but that's no reason to worry. I'm sitting back and enjoying the ride. And hoping for a little holiday romance upon my return to Austin. But again, we'll see.
XOXO,
Dating Aficionado
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