Thursday, February 14, 2013

Thank You Mr. Nice Guy


Dear lovers, singles and friends,

What a better day to write an entry but on Valentine’s Day?

Whether you’re with a significant other, by yourself, with your dog, with your family or with your friends, today is a day that we should all celebrate together. Today, we won’t pay homage to the spirit of love, but to the spirit of kindness and respect.

On this luminous, beautiful Valentine’s Day, I’m going to celebrate nice guys.

Oh we say we want someone to love us, admire us and treat us like queens, but let’s face it. It takes a certain amount of growing up, crushing heartbreak, more growing up and reading “He’s Just Not That Into You” from cover to cover 267 times, before your heart actually believes it. For a good portion of those prime teenage and adult years, women get addicted to drama, uncertainty and the bad boy. Finally, the day comes where you’ve had enough or you’ve gotten plain bored of bad behavior, and the nice guy comes in to fill the space.

I’ve met several nice guys in my life. But it wasn’t until last year that I fully appreciated them.

It started with my ex whom I had a 7-month relationship with and it’s manifested again with the current guy I’m dating. He’s a surfer, an attorney, a bad dancer but most importantly, a nice, respectful and thoughtful guy.

I’m not quite sure I feel the spark with Mr. Kicks-Ass-In-Court or that we’ll continue getting thrashed around by rough Pacific Ocean waves but I really appreciate the way he treats me!

He planned every date to be fun and interesting, he called on the dot, he texted to see if I’m feeling better from my cold, he asked how my work presentations went and he made an effort to get to know my friends.  The hard work paid off because all I keep hearing is , “he seems really into you.”

Wow, it feels good not to wait by the phone. Boy, it feels liberating not to waste any time on flaky man-children.  And, damn, it feels nice to cuddle on some rock-hard abs ;)

XOXO,
Dating Aficionado

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