My profiling experiment continues as I further explore the human psyche through dating and relationships. After all, every one of us is searching for some kind of love. Love that's earth-shattering, love that's simple and convenient, love that fulfills pure physical urges, love that's faked in a ceremony because you didn't use a condom, or a type of love you're not even sure how to describe.
So I met with Doug. He warned me he's not a gold digger, a Starcraft player or a gamer of any kind. He insisted he's too complex to be profiled, but promptly reversed his opinion. "Boys are very simple."
I named him a cynic, he said he's a skeptic. I think he's a complicated individual who believes in love, but is skeptical; a guy who shows his sweet side but has a wild streak.
Me: Tell us, what has been your experience with love so far?
Doug: A lot of looking, not enough finding. Just waiting for the girl to spend the rest of my life with.
Me: What does that girl look like to you?
Doug: (Takes the literal meaning of my question) Well, up until now I've been wrong about the girls I date, so I'm not quite sure. But if I were to tell you my type, it would have to be Filipino girls and slightly fobby Chinese girls.
Me: Why those nationalities?
Doug: The Chinese one makes sense if you subscribe to the Oedipus complex, but I guess Filipino girls just fit the bill for me too. I like the dark skin and big eyes, and cute petitie bodies . . .boys are shallow.
Me: Agreed. What about non-shallow characteristics?
Doug: Easy-going, NOT crazy. All of my past girlfriends I would consider more crazy than most and so I think it is something I want to stay away from. But to be honest, I think there is a part of me that likes slightly spontaneous crazy damaged girls. Maybe they make my low-drama lifestyle more exciting.
Me:I knew it! Guys like crazy girls.
Doug: Some guys...I don't know about all guys, but I want to take care of a girl. And I guess the crazy damaged ones have more need for a guy to treat them right.
Me: Are you the type of guy who treats girls right?
Doug: (Laughs) That's debatable. What I think I do and how girls think I treat them could be entirely different opinions, but yes, I think I treat them right.
Me: Good to hear there are still guys out there who do that.
Doug: I'm sure there are lots of guys who THINK they do that. (Chuckles) You could be talking to one of them right now.
Me: It depends on what expectations both parties have. Do you have high expectations for a relationship?
Doug: I have very high expectations of what I want out of it. It just usually takes me a while to get past the honey moon phase and see if the girl holds up to my expectations.
Expectation is the magic word. What you expect out of love is what you should get. Whichever type of love that is.
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