Since I'm a relationship I haven't really had much opportunity to scope the SF dating scene. (Minus the fact that most guys I meet that I just want to be friends with mistake my friendliness for interest and then try to pursue me).
But last night, at a small gathering at our new apartment, the details about the San Fran dating scene came pouring out. My roommate and our friend certainly had some interesting things to say.
For starters, men in San Francisco are pretty superficial. They care about their jobs, the money they make and how hard they party. So if you like being around overgrown frat guys, you're luck. Now if the men are not shallow, then they're basically the starving tortured artist type who at 39, doesn't fully know what he wants to do with his life, but could talk at great length about harmony and balance. This, of course, isn't making them any money.
Apparently, the flip side of the coin exists as well. Hordes of San Francisco men are fixated on a life plan that they've been following perfectly since about the age of 8. These men are overly obsessed with stability. Our friend hypothesized this might be because so many of us are transplants. Stability in relationships might be the only kind of stability we can have at first. Men here just want wives, and it almost doesn't matter who they are. Wow, that's a far cry from Austin where most guys just want a night of fun. My roommate had plenty of examples to back up the stability theory, including a recent story about a guy she met at her cousin's Thanksgiving party. He was very cute, interesting and had a great job, but also mentioned he wanted to settle down and have children. Whoa, coming on a little strong eh?
Needless to say, it's damn difficult to find a balanced man in San Francisco. From the little experience I had, I would agree. Which makes me all the more glad I'm not single and not looking to mingle. But if I were to jump back in the market, one thing does comfort me. The men outnumber the females here, so the ladies get their pick of the litter. Of course, if the selection sucks, what's your next step? Go lesbian? Lower your standards? Do long distance?
I'll track my friends' adventures to find out.
men may outnumber women but that's because they are all gay couples :P
ReplyDeleteI can't speak for the San Francisco dating scene, but typically when men establish themselves in their careers and make the money they want, the idea of settling down and starting a family naturally follows. Each guy has to decide what time is the right time for him, and also find a woman with the same mind set at the same time.
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